The vocabulary
Names for the things that are wrecking you.
Once a pattern has a name, you can see it. Once you can see it, you can decide what to do about it. Ten frameworks, drawn from Tracey McMillan's book Divorce Is F*cked. Use them in the order they hit you.
Framework 01
Croc Brain
The reptile making your worst decisions for you. Wired before you could read.
Framework 02
Blueprints
Childhood scripts running your separation behind the scenes.
Framework 03
The Relationship Circle
Where your marriage actually broke. (It's not where you think.)
Framework 04
The Gunslinger Lawyer
The aggressive lawyer running your case as their personal battlefield.
Framework 05
The 4-Year Rule
The decision tool that keeps regret at bay. You'll use it weekly.
Framework 06
Soap Opera Mode
The performative public stage of separation, and what it costs you.
Framework 07
The Fog of Week One
Why every man who walks in on day three says the same six things.
Framework 08
The Pivot
The moment your case stops being about her and starts being about you.
Framework 09
The Second Arrow
The pain you keep firing into yourself after the first one's already landed.
Framework 10
The Vault
The things you'll never put in writing, in a text, in a sworn statement.
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