Framework 08 · of ten
The Pivot
The moment your case stops being about her and starts being about you.
What it captures
The shift from defensive to strategic, when men reliably start winning the second half.
Tracey's explanation
Most men spend the first three months arguing the marriage. The case isn't about the marriage. The Pivot is the day you stop trying to prove she was wrong and start running the file you actually have. Lawyers can feel this happen in a client; so can ex-partners.
How to use it this week
Write 'her case' and 'my case' on two columns. Move every item in column one that you can't change into a third column called 'over'. Negotiate from columns two and three.
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