The book
Divorce Is F*cked.
The field guide for men who've been blindsided, frozen out, or quietly running the loop at 3am. Thirty years of family-court work, ten frameworks, no padding.
By Tracey McMillan · First edition, 2025 · 19 chapters, 27 checklists, 165+ pages
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Why I wrote it, and who it's actually for.
For thirty years I watched smart, capable men walk into the family-court system and lose the first month, not because they had bad cases, but because nobody had given them the vocabulary, the sequence, or the discipline to run a case at all. The book is the field guide I wish they'd walked in with.
It's plain English. There's no Latin and no “compassionate and dedicated”. It names the patterns I see in the first call, every time: Croc Brain, Soap Opera Mode, The Fog of Week One, The Pivot, the rest. It's how you turn the worst year of your life into a strategy file instead of a re-firing loop.
It is not a self-help book and it is not an attack on women. It's a tactical book for men, written by a lawyer who's done this work longer than most of them have been adults. If that's you, the first three chapters are free above. The rest is at the booksellers.
What's inside
Frameworks, not platitudes.
Nineteen chapters and twenty-seven checklists that turn the worst year of your life into a plan you can run, instead of a loop you re-fire at 3am. A few of the patterns it names and teaches you to handle:
Croc Brain
The fight-or-flight wiring that hijacks your judgement in week one.
Soap Opera Mode
The performative public stage of separation, and how to step off it.
The Relationship Circle
The four phases every relationship cycles through.
The Gunslinger Lawyer
The aggressive lawyer who runs your case as their battlefield, not yours.
Blueprints
The childhood scripts quietly running your adult behaviour.
Team Truth
Why the sharpest read on your case can come from the other side of the table.
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